Going through a divorce is never an easy experience. Even in an “amicable” divorce, the parties are ending a marital union, which can be a sad occasion. However, in the midst of pain, regret, and sadness, there is also hope. There is life after divorce, and there is much to look forward to as you begin your life again as a single person.As we think about divorce today, we want to focus on the benefits of divorce. Below are seven surprising benefits of divorce that are often overlooked as couples go through the divorce process.
1. An End to Disagreements and Arguments
You no longer need to consult with your ex-spouse regarding where to eat, what to watch on TV, your music choices, or where to go on vacation. Too many times we give in to our spouse’s preferences while putting our desires and wishes aside. After a divorce, you are in complete control. You do not need to worry about pleasing your spouse or compromising your wishes.
2. Peace, Calm, and Quiet
In some marriages, the arguments and frustration with your spouse do not allow you to enjoy peace and quiet very often. There is always a problem, an argument, or something to shatter your attempt at a quiet day alone with your thoughts. Always walking on eggshells and trying to watch what you say so that you do not “set off” your spouse can be very stressful. Being able to take a deep breath and simply relax without the fear of an imminent argument or disagreement can bring a level of peace and calm to your life that you have not experienced in a long time.
3. You Finally Made It to The End of the Divorce Process
Ending a marriage is typically not a happy occasion. You did not enter your marriage with the belief that you would find yourself in divorce court. However, for anyone who has been in an abusive marriage, it is a relief for divorce to be complete. Even for couples who were not abusive to each other, but were in an unhappy marriage, ending the marital union is a relief. An unhappy marriage can be extremely draining. You are on the threshold of a new beginning, and you decide what path you wish to take as exit the divorce process.
4. Emotional Healing
It is difficult to begin the healing process while you are in the middle of a divorce. It is not until after the divorce is complete that you begin the process to heal emotionally. Do not rush the process. Take the time to deal with any remaining issues that might hold you back in future relationships or endeavors. For some people, counseling sessions with a professional therapist can help complete the healing process so that they can move forward to the next phase of life without the “baggage” of an unhappy marriage.
5. Improving Physical Health
Emotional stress can manifest as physical problems. Ending a marriage and going through the divorce process can cause health problems, including insomnia, high blood pressure, eating problems, severe headaches, and chest pain. Now that you have completed the divorce process, you can focus on your physical health, in addition to your emotional well-being. Increasing your physical activity level can relieve stress and promote a healthy lifestyle. Joining a gym, learning yoga, or participating in a new recreational activity is good for your health and your mental well-being.
6. Let Your Tastes Shine in Your Home
You can redecorate your home to reflect your tastes and desires. When you were married, you might have compromised so that your spouse could have his old and tattered recliner, or she could have that flower-covered bedspread that you simply hated. This is your chance to let your style shine. Even minor changes, such as a new color of paint or a new rug, can make you feel better about your home and your choices.
7. Discovering You Still Have “It”
When you are ready, you can begin to venture into the dating world again. It is nice to realize again that you are a desirable, interesting, passionate person who can offer another person love and companionship. As a marriage is ending, it is easy to forget what it feels like to experience those first few days and weeks of a new relationship. Just make sure that you are ready. Do not let anyone push you into dating until you are confident you are ready. There is not a magic date after a divorce that someone should begin dating again. Each person is different, and your path may be unique, but it is right for you.
Are You Ready to Make a Change?
Divorce may not be easy, but we try to make the process as easy as possible for you. Our team of legal professionals is with you each step of the way, providing support, guidance, and legal counsel. If you are ready to begin a new phase in your life, we are here for you. Please call our office to speak with a compassionate, knowledgeable staff member.
